|Am I getting old?
||[Apr. 4th, 2008|02:13 pm]
I'm 25 and love most goth fashion but i'm just wondering is there some things you should stay away from when you get older?|
(Some of this is way basic, please don't take it as a criticism, rather me explaining my take on it.)
Personally I think obvious Sweet Lolita styles, largely borrowed from Japanese culture, tend to look a little silly on women over the age of about 25.
However, my main thought on this would be, dress to your figure and dress to the venue, rather than worrying about "age appropriateness" as such. Women tend to have less forgiving body shapes as they get older, but if you are fit and toned then you can wear clothing that flatter's fit and toned people. If you are curvy, wear corsets. etc etc.
I would personally steer clear of obvious flash in the pan fashion trends> Young people get away with these, but it's more society's willingness to let young people take the risk of looking like a dumbass anyway, we expect youngsters to do potentially dumb things. Anything that's worthwhile will filter through into the wider fashion scene in a reasonably short amount of time. On the goth scene it's less of an issue anyway.
Also, think of venue. I am more than happy to wear reasonably revealing clothes (hot pants and an opaque bra with a mesh dress and big boots for instance) if I'm going to a club or club night, but wouldn't wear it to a normal night out in a pub/bar. I'll quite happily at 33 wear rubber to a cross over goth/fetish event, I have the figure for the outfits I've selected.
I guess on the other hand the older I get, the more I care about being classy and stylish, than being out on the brink of fashion and "edgy". I also have more money to spend on clothes which helps, but also means I tend to buy more items with the view that as quality items I want things I'm going to be able to wear for a good amount of time.
Most of the women I've seen who I would personally class as "mutton dressed as lamb" would have been equally badly dressed as a younger person with the same figure.
I think the same rules apply to alternative fashions as "regular" fashions. If it looks nice, then it doesn't matter how old you are. If it looks silly, then you have to be a certain age to get away with it. There is no reason to stop wearing corsets and flowy things (or whatever floats your boat) just because you're "wrong" side of 21.
I am almost 40.
Lolita on older women can give off the 'whatever happened to baby jane' vibe but depending on how well you are aging you may still have a few years yet there.
Basically dress for your figure and what looks good on you. I was able to wear whatever I wanted till about 30, myself but again it just depends on how you age.
I'm 31 and I've recently discovered that the things I feel like I "should" avoid, like a huge horrible Alchemy Gothic ankh or black lipstick, make me really happy when I wear them in the right setting -- but I'd never wear my party clothes to go grocery shopping. As the others said, if it looks good to you and it feels right, go for it. The best thing about being an adult is the sense of self and security we didn't have when we were in high school!
I'll be 25 in July, and I was thinking about this very issue the other day because I discovered 2 pairs of Hot Topic "bondage pants" in the back of my closet and felt I was *much* too old for that sort of *nonsense* anymore (it's okay- I'll be hacking them into skirts shortly XD). ... Ok, I also found a huuuge stash of jelly bracelets that I think I'm a weee bit too old to be wearing :(
So I guess Hot Topic clothing and jelly bracelets, hahaha.
I'm 45 (though I look quite a bit younger, apparently)-- my "rules" for dressing as elder goth type are basically about keeping things simple. Simpler makeup, etc, etc, .
By the way-- those "rules" are about what makes *me* feel comfortable.
A certain amount of modesty and dignity works for me.
So, for example: Vintage clothing, nods to my old punk days, not a lot of Frou-Frou.. and if I'm wearing a flashy piece (like my tailcoat from the Crypt) everything else is simple black.
But that's just me.
I think you can carry off anything, though as long as (1) it's not cheap, and/or (2) it's a DIY thing.
You are never to old to dress goth.